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Belly Laugh Day 2017 January 24

Belly Laugh Day 2017 January 24 is a holiday observed annually.  This day is dedicated to celebrating the great gift and benefits of laughter. Laughter is known to have many holistic benefits including the expanding of tissue lining of blood vessels.  Through laughter you consequently increase blood flow in your blood vessels and this effortless, enjoyable activity does not cost anything to simply laugh. A good belly laugh in turn makes you feel more positive, boosts your immune system and generally makes you and everyone around you feel happier while enjoying the many benefits of this happy experience.

Laughter is known to make people feel more positive, boost our immune systems, increases pain tolerance and generally makes people feel happier and more energetic. Belly Laugh Day aims to remind people of the benefits of laughter and encourage people to spread laughter in their lives and the lives of others.

The origin of Belly Laugh Day as I understand came about to give people who have survived hard times a chance to laugh and be happy, and to give those in mourning an excuse to be happy for a day.

While I respect the origin of belly laugh day I encourage laughter on a daily basis.  Perhaps if we all laugh more often we can automatically improve our overall health.  There is no better form of free, natural therapy than a good belly laugh.  Think of all the health benefits you’ll enjoy. Your stress level will lessen and the quality of your life will improve.

Think of living in the present, the here and now, take time to laugh and enjoy this moment, the here and now. Think of the therapeutic benefits you can enjoy from laughter.  Did you know laughter is one of 12 habits of highly healthy people?

Research shows laughter offers us health benefits in four health dimensions: physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual.

Physical health

  • Laughter is like “internal jogging.” It temporarily increases your heart rate and blood pressure, followed by muscle relaxation and a decrease in blood pressure.
  • It may boost the immune system and promote healing.
  • It burns calories – 60 to 120 calories an hour over your resting metabolism.

Intellectual health

  • Laughter creates a positive effect which in turn influences attention, institution, creativity and imagination.
  • It enhances employee morale, resilience and belief is one’s abilities in the workplace.

Emotional health

  • Laughter is a great positive coping skill.
  • It can reduce stress by providing a positive way to look at a problem.
  • It solidifies friendships and makes people feel included.

Spiritual health

  • Laughter is a universal language and can be an interfaith experience.
  • It fosters connection and compassion.

Three examples below identify activities related to laughter:

  • Laughter yoga —a fun combination of stretching, breathing and laughing exercises that can help you feel awakened, confident, creative, productive and ready to tackle anything.
  • Build an inventory of funny jokes, cartoons and stories.
  • Have a joke jar at home or in your office.  Reference:  mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/

Reflect on everything that you are grateful for.  Learn to accept the things you cannot change, don’t dwell there, move on.  There’s always a positive in every negative, focus on the positive.  Focus on how you can bring more laughter, gratitude and acceptance not only into your life but the lives of those you love and touch.  Laughter is the best medicine.

 

How Chronically Unhappy People Fix Their Inner Self?

The choices we make in life are connected to our emotions.  How chronically unhappy people fix their inner self depends on their desire to change their mindset.  Happiness comes from your decision to be a happy person or an unhappy person.

happy or unhappyHappy people are simply happy living in the present.  They understand that they alone are responsible for their happiness.   As a result of their positive energy and optimistic outlook they are admired.  They attract and encourage other people to work on healing their inner self as most people want to be happy.  Their laughter and energy become infectious.  Other people want to be around happy energy so they can learn from them and be happy as well.

Chronically unhappy people on the other hand are pessimists they place all kinds of negative limitations on themselves and make all kinds of excuses because they are too afraid to fail.  Their fear of failure paralyses their thinking and they keep themselves stuck in the same place.

Life lkaughs at youYour thoughts, actions and choices all contribute to happiness or unhappiness.  If you want to be happy you entertain happy thoughts and do things that make you happy.  If however, you feel chronically unhappy you can be true to yourself, make some positive changes and work towards fixing your emotional state.  The reality is, only you can fix your mind, your thoughts, your actions and choices.  Only you can control how you feel, so don’t  worry, make the choice, be happy.

Here are 10 common things chronically unhappy people do and how they can heal their life.

  1. They subscribe to pessimistic views of life.

unhappy peopleUnhappy people are driven by fear.  Too afraid to fail they put all kinds of limitation on themselves.  They subscribe to old beliefs like “People don’t change.” “That is not fixable.” “You are finished.”  No doubt these types of negative beliefs are self serving.  Paralysed with fear you are not motivated to try anything new.  However, in limiting your thoughts, your imagination and your actions you hold yourself back from ever reaching your actual potential.

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius

A closed mind inhibits your thoughts thereby preventing you to think and problem solve effectively.   To be happy you must reset your mind and thoughts to positive thinking.  In other words you must change.  Be done with all the negative beliefs standing in your way of progress, free yourself of fear.  “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” President Franklin D. Roosevelt.

Overcome fearHappy people don’t try to be happy.  Happy people make a choice to be happy. They live their life the best way they can with what they have.  Chronically unhappy people on the other hand want to fix their unhappiness without having to do the necessary work required.  You can’t chase happiness.  It can’t be found. It can’t be grasped. It happens, when everything else falls into place.  Make a choice to be happy.

  1. They are stuck and are averse to change.

Change means work it means growing pain getting out of your comfort zone. It means losing control a little bit.

Everyone needs a break from the hustle and bustle of life.  Some may throw in the towel; some may eat a bit more and exercise less at the most crucial time they chose to become a spectator instead of being a proponent for change.

happiness shines throughStill, it is absolutely important to practice change, feeling fear and overcoming it.  Why?  You see, happiness starts shining through when you are lest focused on finding happiness.  It happens when you are not focused on finding happiness, but focused instead on overcoming fear. The evolution and growth of a person is where personal satisfaction and accomplishment breeds happiness. Without personal development we are expecting happiness to come without having done the work. Unhappiness is a symptom of arrested development.  Knowing this, get active, take responsibility for your life and work towards appreciating what you can control.

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli

  1. They don’t try enough.

Take ControlBeing unhappy is the same as giving up; you become apathetic.  It’s a choice you make every day to not try at something.  How about trying some new things:

  • we need to try new habits
  • try new relationships
  • try new activities
  • try new foods
  • try new knowledge.
  • keep trying to find ourselves at every stage of our lives.
  • try to be our best person.
  • we need to try to serve.

 

Happiness is finding your passion; whatever you love so much that it causes you pain. Unhappy people quit too early. They don’t give themselves credit and quit before the glory. When we know what we’re made of, it gives us confidence to try more often.

No guts no glory maj._gen_blesse.350“No guts no glory”.   Major Gen. Frederick C. Blesse may not be well known by the general public, but in U.S. Air Force circles he remains something of a legend. With extensive combat experience and a pile of medals and awards, his place in U.S. Air Force history was already assured in 1955 when he wrote a fighter tactics manual called No Guts, No Glory. It is considered the Bible of air-to-air combat and has been used by a number of air forces around the world. “No Pain, No Gain” is a less dramatic, but more familiar variation of the phrase, which refers to the need for hard work not only in the gym but at anything you wish to succeed in doing.

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” – Mary Anne Radmacher

  1. They self deprecate.

compliment yourselfThey’re quick to put themselves down.  ”I am such an idiot.” or “I am a terrible person.”

  • practice complimenting yourself for all your efforts.
  • learn to love yourself.
  • be good and kind to yourself.
  • stop the self inflicted verbal abuse.

Happiness is derived from confidence and that inner belief in ourselves.  What exactly is happiness?  Happiness could mean:

  • a life that goes well for the person leading it.
  • happiness could be what benefits us
  • is good for us
  • make us better off, serves our interests, and is desirable for us and for our sake.

“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne

peace loveYour disposition is a product of your thoughts, how you treat yourself and how you nourish yourself. Treat yourself with love and respect, cultivate and nurture a loving, peaceful environment within.

  1. They are addicted to dark, depressing things.

For instance the news and some television shows can be inherently depressing.  Undoubtedly, it is easy to relate to the horror and injustices in the world and with other people.  When you’re programmed to believe that your life is better compared to the horror stories we hear and see we are polluting our mind to attract those very things in our lives.  What would happen if we change our mindset and exposed ourselves to funny, pleasant, happy things?

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” –  Abraham Lincoln

Is this quote reason enough to change your mind set?  You decide how you want to feel and immerse yourself in a culture to be happy.

  1. They care about what others think.

You will never be happy if you’re focused on other people’s judgements of you.  Focus only on what you think and care about.  Work to be confident and strong in your beliefs and become a better person.  It takes time to develop self confidence and discover who you truly are so never waste time caring about what others think of you.

“Be true to yourself and you will never fall.” – Beastie Boys.

  1. They are defensive.

Robert KiyosakiLiving life in a defensive position defy your chances for happiness.  Try making some changes.

  • accept the truth and be cool with it
  • do not take things personally
  • make good things happen
  • embrace change, learn, grow, develop
  • be happy.

 “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu

Be open to taking chances, getting creative and working at something.  Little achievements are big offensive moves.

  1. They are passionate and proud (but also stubborn).

stubbornnessUnhappy people want to do things their way because they are stubborn.  When given suggestions, they become defensive and rebel even more positive that they are right.  More often than not they allow pride to get in the way. Pride however, is just another barrier standing in your way to happiness.

  • pride is holding you back – get rid of it
  • pride is selfish
  • happiness is selfless.
  • be open to alternative ideas and solutions.
  • try a new approach
  • change whatever is not working for you.

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” – Winston Churchill

Being humble is the answer to happiness. Do something different, if you want a different result!

  1. They hold on for too long.

let go grudgesHolding onto the past whether it is grudges, toxic relationships, material possessions to name a few you must make a conscious effort to let go of the old, clear your mind and be ready to accept new opportunities waiting for you.

“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.” – Anatole France

One door must close for another to open.  When you hold onto the past and keep looking backward halts progress and happiness. The best things happen to those that don’t hold on too tightly. Let go of your grasp, look forward and watch how things fall into place without your efforts.  Have faith in something other than yourself.  Let go of control and wait for the result.

  1. They take themselves too seriously.

laugh at yourselfDo you find humour in your efforts or circumstances?  If you don’t, you’re taking yourself too seriously.  Learn to laugh at yourself and at others.  Laughter is a great natural stress reliever so lighten up laugh, appreciate your efforts; pat yourself on your back for trying.  Be humble, ask and accept help from others, don’t be too hard on yourself for life is short and laughter leads to happiness.

Can You Control Your Anger

anger is normalAnger is a normal, healthy emotion.

No one is perfect; we all encounter anger in our lives and, dealing with anger is a normal part of life.  What’s challenging about anger is how we choose to deal with it.

 

anger out of controlIf you choose to be negative and consistently get upset when things don’t go your way you might need to take a serious look at constructive ways to control your anger and keep your temper in check.  If on the other hand you choose to deal with the upsetting issue in a positive manner means you’re able to stay in control in spite of whatever frustration you’re experiencing.  Uncontrolled anger will eventually take a toll on your own health, your family and your relationships.  Often times it does not end well.

anger managementTake an objective look at yourself, come to terms with your anger issue and start implementing positive changes to improve your own health and your family relationships.  Learn to control your anger, change and live.

Here are 10 Tips:

  1. Think before you speak

respect others 1You cannot take back the spoken word so take a few moments to gather your thoughts before saying anything.  If you can’t say something good don’t say anything at all.  Be respectful of others involved and allow them the opportunity to do the same.

  1. Talk about what made you angry when you are calm

expressing-angerWhen you calm down and have gathered your thoughts express your frustration in a non-confrontational, assertive way.  Clearly state your concerns and what you would like without hurting others or trying to control them.

  1. Exercise regularly

Physical activities help to reduce stress.  Since stress is a major cause of anger you can Tai chimanage stress by keeping physically active.  Go for a brisk walk or run, ride your bike through a nature trail, spend time doing other enjoyable physical activities.  Yoga, pilates, Tai Chi are great ways to calm your mind.

  1. Take a Tmeout

Taking short breaks from your routine can be helpful.  Enjoy a few minutes of quiet time in meditation.  This might help you feel calm and better prepared to handle whatever comes your way.

  1. Find and implement possible solutions

be flexible in lifeInvest time and work on resolving the issue(s) at hand in a positive manner. To every problem there’s a solution.  If what you’re doing isn’t working, change it to something that works. If your child’s messy room drive you crazy, you can close the door.  If your scheduled dinner time no longer works for everyone, then change it to a time convenient to all.  Be flexible and roll with the punches.  Anger does not fix anything, it only make matters worse.  Flexibility encourages change.  Since change is the only constant in our lives we need to change as life changes.

6. Use ‘I’ statements

respect for othersWhen dealing with an issue the last thing you want to happen is to create additional tension or place blame.  Be respectful and specific.  Here’s an example of how you use the “I” statement.  Say:  “I’m upset that you got up and left the table without offering to help with the dishes,” instead of saying:  “You never do any housework.”  

7. Be done with grudges

No more grudges

Practice forgiveness. When you forgive you free yourself from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.  Forgiveness is a powerful tool that liberates you to freedom.  It is easier to forgive than to hold onto any form of negativity.  Embrace the gift of life, forgive yourself and everyone, live in the moment and appreciate the wonderful gift of life.

8. Laugh to release tension

laughter

One of the easiest and quickest ways to feel better is to enjoy a good belly laugh.  Learn to loosen up, learn to relax and find humour in your given scenario rather than focus on anger.  Laughter is natural therapy that does a world of good with no associated costs.

9. Choose to relax

take time to relaxWhen you feel the urge to be angry, count from one to ten and practice deep-breathing exercises.  Go out for a walk in the fresh air, clear your mind and relax.  You might also listen to easy, calming music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses.  Best of all take a vacation.  Do whatever it takes to encourage relaxation, just do not get angry.

10. Know when to seek help

anger destroysOld habits die hard and change takes work.  Controlling anger can be challenging at times however, if your anger issues seem to be out of control and you’re not making any progress on your own, it is time to seek help.  Too much anger is destructive not only to you – it negatively impacts everyone around you.